Passage – the act or process of moving through, under, over or past something on the way from one place to another.
“Red rover, red rover, send……..right over!” As I looked to the right and the left, I realized it was my time. No one could go through this with me. I was all on my own and I had no choice but to run towards what was ahead of me as fast and hard as I could, with the possibility of there being a struggle making it through. But I had mustard seed faith in myself. Even at barely 80 pounds wringing wet, I believed that I could endure anything…or anyone. I checked my stance and took a deep breath. As I skimmed the line, I looked for the holes, or gaps, and people that I knew I could get through. Maybe they didn’t appear as strong, maybe they weren’t as attentive to notice my strategy, or maybe they created enough space without realizing my intent. Either way, I was going to leverage my preciseness and take advantage of all of my opportunities.
“I may be small, but I AM mighty,” I thought to myself.
My thoughts were immediately interrupted as the wedding coordinator came rushing into my spacious, yet cluttered dressing room yelling. “It’s time for you to get married!” I immediately chugged the last sip of Moscato left in my wine glass hoping the small amount would take away the large knots in my chest. I began to feel the same butterflies in the pit of my stomach as I did on the playground the very first time I played the game “Red Rover.” Quiet as kept, it soon became one of my favorite games, often reminding me in times where I needed it the most, that I could accomplish ANYTHING that I set my mind to. “Play smarter, not harder Mo.” The simple concept is what helped me to learn how to navigate through life strategically, with intention, knowing that I am worthy of having anything I set my mind to. In fact, it was after realizing that “casual dating” was for the birds around my mid-twenties, and implementing a lifestyle that included more intentional, purposeful dating that I found my now fiancé.
As I walked down the long hallway, I began to take deep breaths, only to stop directly in front of the double doors which separated me from a room full of my closest family and friends. I began to repeat the words that got me through adversity in a male dominated career path, the words that brought peace to my mind when I left my abusive college sweetheart, and the words that helped me heal after my grandmother’s death. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” The little girl inside of me lifted her head from prayer and with the brightest smile that seemed to fill the room, glided down the aisle to her prince charming.”
As a kid, I never realized how much harder it was to be on the other side of the game. The people holding hands on the opposing side, I’d imagined, endured just as much pressure to maintain a foundation so solid that no one could penetrate it. No one wants to be the reason why the team fails. And if it were a good team, in most cases, they soon realized that the only way to keep from someone or something breaking through is by communication and teamwork. If you were lucky, you’d always have at least one person on the team that exhibited a keen sense of intuitiveness, often identifying certain strategies of the individuals trying to break through. This allowed the group to reposition themselves, strengthen the areas that may be a target and refocus their attention on what’s important.
Standing there listening to the officiant read the popular words, “what God has joined together, let no one put asunder,” I suddenly smiled. It reminded me of my childhood game. I looked at the beautiful man in front of me realizing that he is now my partner in life. Together we make a team, and like the game, we will have trials and tribulations that are meant to break our foundation. You know, the ones that seem to approach you a hundred miles an hour coming from left field. They may be in the form of layoffs, depression, loss of a loved one, divorce – you name it. And yes, there will be moments where you may have to play both sides of the game in various seasons of your life.
But, if we operate in love, communicate, and work together, we can overcome any obstacle that comes our way to break us. How do I know? …because we are given a right for passage. Nothing that ever happens to us isn’t already divinely written for us to get through and endure. A barrier is merely a temporary delay to our next destination.